Saturday, June 06, 2009

Comments from: Just-For-Women Fundraiser for "A Place for Women to Gather"

“ Martin Brossman is passionate about his mission of educating women and men about Men's Work and reclaiming men in our society. Thank you again, Martin, for sharing your work and experience with us and I was so glad to see so many people support Martin last night. We raised $250 for A Place for Women to Gather and that means so much to me! ”
- Alice Osborn

" Martin shared such valuable information; I am so glad I attended this talk! ”
- Christina Thompson

“ A wonderful presentation ... just too short ! There is so much more to learn !! ”
- Leslie

“ Martin share some great information with us and explained the underlying "why" about how men react to certain situations. ”
- Theresa

“ Martin's insight into what and how men are wired, comes from the invaluable work that he has been doing in this arena for years. We as womem would be wise to hear what he has to say, that way we can become more aware of how to make relationships more successful. Also we can comfortably take the female strengths and become valuable guides to the men in our lives. What a gift Martin is to the world. ”
- Annette

“ Martin's insight into what and how men are wired, comes from the invaluable work that he has been doing in this arena for years. We as womem would be wise to hear what he has to say, that way we can become more aware of how to make relationships more successful. Also we can comfortably take the female strengths and become valuable guides to the men in our lives. What a gift Martin is to the world. ”
- Lois

“ Martin got me to think about my role as partner, parent and friend of boys and men. It also helps me think about my own balance of masculine and feminine and how they contribute to my effectiveness as a healthy contributing member of the community. ”
- Suzanne

The origional post about the event:

CARY, N.C.—On Monday evening, May 4, success coach Martin Brossman will be presenting “What’s New About Men That Women Want to Know,” a dynamic event exclusively for women, co-coordinated by writer/educator Alice Osborn ( and Martin Brossman ( Register here: or email: to reserve your place

Proceeds from this thought-provoking talk will go to A Place for Women to Gather, a not-for-profit ministry sponsored by the Sisters of the Holy Cross ( Offering a variety of spiritual and creative programs and services at their North Raleigh location, A Place for Women to Gather is devoted to the mission of empowering women and helping them find their authentic selves.

The venue for this fundraiser is the BNC, 649 Walnut Street, Cary, from 7:00 p.m. to 8:30 p.m. Light hors d’ oeuvres will be served and a cash bar available. Guests may pre-register to receive a discounted admission rate of $15.00, or opt for $20.00 admission at the door. Registration is available online at or by calling Martin Brossman at 919-847-4757.The evening’s original topic is relevant for both single and married women of all ages, and is especially relevant for single mothers raising sons. Brossman addresses the three types of men and how they affect our culture; the stages of boys’ maturity to men and how this process affects all relationships; and how this knowledge about men and the boys they once were can make women more effective in both their business and personal life.

Since 1997, Brossman has led the online Men’s Inquiry Group and, in 2003, created the women’s version of this work, the Women’s Inquiry Group. In 2006, he published his first book on men’s topics: Finding Our Fire—Enhancing Men’s Connection to Heart, Passion and Strength, available on Amazon and in international distribution. Brossman has also produced a live recording of the Men’s Inquiry; What Does It Mean to be a Man of Your Word?; as well as a recording of his talk, Model of The Maturing Man. He has mentored men around the world in starting their own men’s groups, and received the Ron Hering Mission of Service award in 2007 for “living his mission in the world.” He is currently working on his next book, Taboo, the Unspoken Code of Men.

For additional related information:Martin Brossman’s Book & Audio: http://www.findingourfire.comthe/ Men’s Inquiry website: The Women’s Inquiry website: 919-845-4385

Friday, June 05, 2009

Martin Brossman's All About Men Seminar by Jessica Sabatini

A blog posting by Jessica Sabatini in about Martin's Men's Talk for Women, inspired after the talk.

What an enlightening experience! Last night, May 4th, I attended Martin Brossman's seminar about men (he's coming up with a new title) at the BNC center. About 13 years ago, Martin attended a men's weekend in LA that truly changed his life. I know he's telling the truth, because about 10 years ago, my husband attended the same men's weekend in NY, which played a big part in bringing out this masculine, emotionally expressed, man of integrity that I married.

At the end of the weekend both men attended, they were advised to find a group of mature men to support these insights and keep them true to their mission. So, not having a group near by, Martin began his own men's group called the Triangle Men's Inquiry that has been meeting monthly for the past 12 years. This seminar was a culmination of all that Martin learned about the struggles of creating healthy, mature males from these meetings.

Martin made an important correlation between the lack of sufficient forces to develop these healthy men and the rising prison population, more than 50% divorce rate, and the non-ethical business and financial practices causing havoc in our world today. I agree, since the feminist revolution, men have been confused about their identity, and society has been confused as to what we really want from our men. Martin offers answers and powerful solutions that will help this gender find it's balance and place once again as centered, strong, fully expressed, contributing men.

Some of the gems I picked up were:
1. That I don't have to fix or be everything for my husband/son. His happiness is not my responsibility. I can be a wife/mother and support him in many ways, but he needs other men to challenge him, give him attention and space to sort through his feelings, and validate him when he takes action along his life purpose.

2. When my husband (or father, brother, son) actually expresses his feeling to me, DON'T DIG DEEPER! Recognize that he processes emotions differently and most likey slower than I, so be happy that he is expressing something. If I push it, he may keep his feelings in the next time.

3. Men have the ability to do before they have the ability to feel. So when I notice my husband with an emotional struggle, I can ask "What do you need to do to make you feel better/complete/relieved/satisfied?" And he may just have to mow the lawn in order to work out his angst about his boss, and that's his process.

4. Give room for my husband to be a father in his own way. There is no need for me to micromanage his relationship with his off spring. Afterall, they're his kids too, he has a right to discover th man he wants to be for them and with them. I can even help him out by handing him the baby and walking out the door for at least four hours.

I higly recommend you spreading the word about Martin's mission and learn ways to support the men in your life as they strive to reach their full potential.

Jessica Sabatini

Comments from Christina Thompson that Came to Martin's Talk About Men

[Christian is a trombones and music instructor who is responding to Martin Brossman's talk about Men for a group of women.]

I truly enjoyed Martin's talk, and came away nothing short of enlightened! I realized I'd been making some assumptions about men and boys, and those assumptions were nearly opposite of the truth. A couple of things that struck me last night were:

1. Many self-help books are geared toward the way women operate. Martin shared how for men, "getting in touch with one's feelings" in the same way that women do can be harmful, even lethal! I had never realized this before.

2. Men have their own signature way of processing emotions, that's more about doing than sitting and talking. I now understand why my husband Andrew goes out and mows the lawn when he's stressed. Whereas I would call somebody and vent and feel better, he feels better by -doing- something instead.

3. Boys' need of mentors and rites of passage to grow into mature men. This is really going to affect the way I work with students. I already make a point to talk to students about how with every practice session, they become more closely knit into the worldwide fellowship of musicians. But I wonder if I could make this even more concrete, would it help young boys even more? Is this why school bands and choirs, when run well, save young men from gangs and street life?

4. I have had many experiences of being marginalized as a woman, but men have these experiences too. Hearing Martin talk challenged my misguided notion that men live on "easy street" while we women have to fight for our rightful place in the world. Men have their own challenges--and knowing this, I can now be more sensitive and understanding.

I agree with Martin's comment about "movements". I bet, one person at a time, that Martin's message will grow and spread. I think I'll use the information I learned last night to be more at peace with men in my own life--to see where they're coming from, to let their workbenches be messy, and to let them be where they're at.

Thanks, Martin Brossman